PAY ATTENTION-- Bobbie Sue

One of those moments- kinda day-.. 

Have you ever?  Out shopping and you know or you think you know where you parked? Find your car and open the door, sit down and look up to see a car that is exactly the color and make of yours and for one brief moment you look to make sure you are in the correct car?  I took the keys and was about to insert them in the ignition and looked up to find my little car sitting adjacent to me or was it, dummy me. I sat there like a knot on the log thinking I had gotten into the wrong car, Again, until I saw the lei hanging from the rearview mirror..   a sigh of relief and a YOU DUMBA##! started my car and went on my way, just shaking my head..

One other time, I was shopping with my girls and we were talking and walked to the back of the car opened it and started putting  the groceries in the back when all of a sudden one of my girls says that she didn't think this was our car...  I politely replied that it was and kept on shoving in the bags when all of a sudden, I looked up toward the front of the car and I gave a little yell..  and said "Girls this isn't our car"..  "We told you"..   but where in the heck was ours??  It was a row over. 

I go off in my own little world at times and I have tunnel vision. This was one of those days.   I just have to laugh at myself and shake my head.   What is next? :) 

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Single Mom------- Yes, you can!!!!

I hear so many stories of young women telling stories of being "The Single Mother". 

I have been a single mother twice in my lifetime and I can tell you, it is the most difficult time of my life.   You wander if you can make it. The answer is yes.   100 percent, yes you can. 

The choice is yours, depending on what choice you make determines your outcome.   If you have a baby but choose to still party and hang out with your friends and mom and dad rearing your child.. Then I can pretty much say, You need work and that, of course, is your choice.  Chances are slim that you will make it---- for a while anyways.    But, if you are one that works or may or may not be out on your own just yet.   Chances are you will make it.   Taking care of your child and putting food on the table is your number 1 priority. 

I can't tell you how many times, I wanted to give up.  It seemed as if everything I made was going right out the door for diapers, food, car payment, doctor bills, gas and clothes.  Many times, I sat and cried wondering how on earth can I care for this little baby on my own.  She depends on me for her care, for everything.  The countless nights without any sleep to have an early morning call to work. Work all day and come home to feed and change the baby. That is all before I get to have dinner.  It's the life I chose to have at 21 years old and my responsibility that I cannot shake.  

Being a single mom. No, is not easy but if you have a goal and work for that goal, you can make it happen..   Your bills will get paid, food (maybe not much food) on the table and a little gas for the car. All this is an attainable goal. Yes, furthering your education may be on the back burner for a time, but you can do it.  It takes hard work. Lots of hard work and sleepless nights to make it happen.  But once you get in a routine and the baby gets older, yes of course there become different needs, but you have figured out how to juggle. What is important and what you can let go.   Face it, most of us need help from time to time and there is help out there if you just ask for it and willing to do what is necessary for your life with your child.  

In days going by, you find that it is okay and you can make it and you strive for that promotion or go for a new job and then maybe, just maybe, can go back to college to pursue your degree.  You look back and see those fallen tears you had those years ago were now tears of how on earth did I do it. I did it.

Time goes by that you are comfortable enough to start dating again and maybe some of you will get married and have more children others still on the search of that special someone.  Now dating, is a whole other mix in the stew.  You learn to juggle in a different way. Time between to two and then allowing this person to meet your child for the first time, it's many emotions all into one.


This blog is not about beating some of you up it is to let you know that if you are a single mom. You don't have to be in that "NORM" of what the term means today.  You wake up and you fight everyday..  I don't care if you have to take that father into court.. Hell, it's not for you, it is for that child that didn't ask to be here..  You wake up with no sleep and you put your big girl drawers on and you take that step to make a better life for that child and for yourself.   Life is not easy but it's not quite as hard as we sometimes make it out to be.   You can make it. One day at a time.

So ladies get your tails in gear, get a job, make that dad pay for his child, work towards a place of your own and take care of your business----- meaning for you and your child not your friends and partying.   Be a Hero for that child and for yourself.  

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