Thursday, May 29, 2014

Sorry it's been a while------- Missing someone

Sorry, it's been a while on my blogging.. I have had in this past 3 weeks; a death, computer shutdown and just too busy catching up.  

I have a few blogs coming up on how we Southerners talk--- gonna poke fun a bit..  Another on mom's and one I am trying to piece together about a new movie coming out (this I can't wait to blog about)  and then of course blog about whatever comes to my mind.... could be dancing --- not brave enough to tackle politics,yet....  

This one is one of missing someone you love..... whether by death or breakup or long distance.......

It is so hard when they die because that is the end. They are no longer for us to hold or to see or have lunch/dinner ... Our hearts are heavy with the emptiness of not  having them around and as our tears fall; we can't or feel we can't go on without them. We find ourselves waking up after a night of crying ourselves to sleep. Our days are to merely exist; got to keep busy; we say. In the first weeks and months, we try not to touch on those little things of remembrance--- to painful, but then as those months turn to a year; we long and grasp for every memory to hold and we begin to smile.   They are and will always be with us and in those moments of silence; we find ourselves talking to them. 

In a breakup--- when it is unexpected because of fault of one or both or just maybe no fault of either... When there is deep affection, it can cut to the core. The loss of not having that person with you anymore is at times worse... You see them everyday or most days and they are with someone else (if fault of their own) and you feel as if your heart was either betrayed or taken out and stomped. But again, when those same days turn to weeks and months..... depends on how long the relationship/how deep the heart---- we /you begin to see someone else and you start to forget about the one that left; consider it a lesson learned and wish them well and move on.. Does not a heart be with darkness inside... 

In a long distance relationship.... now some of these work out others do not------  As it is the way of the computer age, we can find anyone at any place at any time or any where in the world... Chat lines, Websites and others. We often find our hearts and minds to that other person on the other end.    Some may find we can't wait to see them on cam or email or text.
 And if there is a relationship and one by let's say by move to another area or state where there is going to be a feat on both parts to keep them as a couple.   Now that can be a tough one...When they move--- it rips your heart out. Watching them pack up and move is a terrible feeling. You cry and seems by the time they leave both are on the phone not wanting to say goodbye. You ache to the core and you wonder how you will make it through; until you get to see them again. ....  but if you have that love and trust in one another --- you will make it through the times when you are apart... What is the saying??  "Absents  makes the heart grow stronger/fonder"   I would like to know who said that one.... LOL.. just teasing here. 
Truth is (my opinion) when you have strong love; you can over come anything to find your way.... 

As we miss these that are gone... Only one is more definite.. Death.. The others mentioned seem worse than death to some of us; but in reality, they are still alive, still here and in time we move on..  much different with moving on from death......  but yet, we do---- in time----- whether alone or someone else but forever in our hearts (in one fashion or another)..

Thank you-------

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