My take--- on How I would like to be remembered

I would like to be remembered as being one with heart and purpose. Without heart, you can not see beyond the clouds and without purpose, you can not live.  I want to also be remembered for loving with everything I have and standing up for beliefs( i suppose that could run along with purpose). Being kind to all and a smile that would brighten anyone's day.. The gift of gab ( i can talk and talk). Being passionate, whether it be personal or career. Of all these things I would like to be remembered ----as having lived the life I had with heart and purpose. 

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My take on violence and drugs/plain bad behavior

When I was a victim's advocate, I used to sit and listen to how someone could do some of the vile things to another person. Some of the things would make you sick and turn your blood boiling. How could someone do this? But whatever the abuse, and in my case, sexual assault or rape, it's not about sex it's about the control they think they have and sex is just a bonus for them and their twisted mind. 
How many times have I been wakened by a phone call in the middle of the night to talk to a victim that can not seem to deal with what has happened. Some wanting to end their pain with pills, alcohol or even some other drastic measure as in killing themselves. That's hard to hear. 
I have been in that ER talking to the victim, the police and the doctors and if needed,depending on the age of the person, DHS. You hear, why, why, why......... there is no why. You hear, it's my fault........no, generally not. I don't care if one walks in a room totally naked, does it give the green light for someone to touch you? NO, it does not. Or if someone comes up in your face and taunt you to hit them or they push you trying to get some type of response... or maybe, if wife, girlfriend or family member does something you don't like ...  does that give the right to lay your hands on them? NO, it does not
It's about self control and when you put drinking, drugs and certain clicks in the mix; you can get a disaster. This is just crazy. And to top it off we have a #president stating that #marijuana is not a hazard as drinking.. well excuse the hell out of me.........   YES, it is. 
They are both drugs that can alter your state of mind and when you have young impressionable minds and all this bad behavior .......  You get young men and women having sex because it feels good, what the hell do you know what feels good? Or, this is a good one, nothing else to do and everyone else is doing it....  how about ..........  Get a job, do chores, play games, have a party without all this crap in your system. How about standing up and having the initiative to say, no.  Show you have a brain instead of stupidity. Yes, I know we all have a moment of stupidity of youth, but these times of accessibility, our youth have no direction and they are like the give me, cause i deserve it and most are all running a muck.
Girls you don't need to pull your pants down and have sex for a guy to like you or want you .. Guys you don't need to make it a game or "another notch". Drugs and alcohol is a dangerous game we play but as a young person and their growing minds, what is it actually doing? What in the hell are we teaching our kids? No wonder marriage is not the norm these days. 
And to all the grown men and women out here. It's the same for this group to. Self control vs. impulse/violence. I have seen it and heard it all. The control and violence on another human being and it makes me sick and as much as I go into my mind and want to go after that person that did this; I have to keep my control and know that I am there for this person, talking with them. Helping them get through this and showing them they can come out of this awful experience and turn it into something they can deal with.. The goal is getting them out of the victim stage to one of being a survivor. 
In weeks to come, I will break down each of these and voice my opinion. I would like to have feedback or comments about what I blog about, feel free. 

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My rant on Health Care----

As I watch the news and hear about HCare. I want to scream.. Why screw up what we had? yes, it wasn't perfect and yes, it needed fixing... badly.. but to destroy what good people that were doing the right thing that could afford it...  having insurance... they go and mess it up... yes, it's a noble thing to want everyone to have insurance.......but listen.. the math doesn't work and i'm not even good at math.  

Why not get government out of health care and allow our system to work... government helps government not the people that support it.  Even MCare and Social Security is about to go bust because the jackrabbits stole our money for other projects and all we have in there are IOU's, let me tell you, I've paid my dues for that money to be there and sadly it will not be .. for me or for many others. MCaid is a whole other problem.. why not make the guys that get these girls pregnant get a job and help pay for the insurance if they want any type of assistance??  Hey just suggestions, my opinions. 

Let's allow all us to shop across country for insurance, that would make the "greedy" insurance companies competitive and help cost... tort reform is a biggy... have health  savings account would be great. 

Let's face it, not everyone is going to have insurance whether it be from not affording it or just don't want it. But forcing someone to take something they don't want and can't afford for the purpose of equal and fair........is not how our/this country works.  Not how our Constitution works.....  

So scrap this crap and do it right for the people not the government. 

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Thanksgiving

Oh, the wonderful smells of the kitchen around the holidays.. As a child, we didn't know much  or pay much attention to the festive days but we knew it was a time for good food and fun with our cousins.  

Those smells take me back in remembering when daddy would have the turkey or ham, depending on which he was to cook for the day and of course his dressing. That cornbread dressing was so good but of course he and my grandmother would make one as sort of a competition to see whose would be eaten first. The chicken stewing for the dressing as well as the extra parts for the giblet gravy(not my favorite) and of course the smell of the sage and allspice in the cornbread, marrying together before putting in the oven. My dad would make his famous potato salad and my grandmother would make her fruit salad ( I liked mine with the marshmallow creme instead of the mayo).  All the vegetables would be cooked to superb taste which meant with seasoning and lard or at times with butter. The rolls were hot and buttered and would slide right down the ole gullet. The tea was sweet and all those pies and candies that were made from scratch; pecan pie, chocolate pie and martha washington's and let's not forget my dad's strawberry cake.   

Can you imagine all the food?  We ate until we could not see straight or sit straight.  

Before and after dinner/lunch, we kids would be outside playing football or riding on the little minibikes or sitting around in another room talking about things that girls talk about, boys.. 

I loved those days when a gathering would be fun, cause face it......as we get older and we are doing the cooking........it's not so much fun.. :)   Bless those before us, now one can understand the wine or a glass of sumptin sumptin ....... that keeps the smile on the face and the stress of getting it done to a minimal.   

So, as I close this blog today because I have the dressing calling me and the green bean casserole to put in next, I wish all of you a very Happy Thanksgiving.  We are blessed each day---- it's a wonderful life.   Be safe and keep those less fortunate in our prayers. 


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To all those Unanswered Questions

"Unanswered Questions"

You know when you think you have figured it out and then "wham" it hits you with another twist and turn? Things you thought you knew turns out could/could not be.  


Sometimes IT can be true and kept from you/us for unknown reasons and other times, it can very well be "unanswered questions" playing around with your/our  mind.  You/we are the pawn from which those tricks are played.  Or maybe we become gullible to those "unanswered questions" and we take on a perception of the truth/lie that we and we only can hold on to? And when I say hold on to, I mean holding on can either make us or break us. 

Sometimes, those "unanswered questions" can drive us deep inside to do or think unimaginable things. To find a lost love or to seek the truth that only one person can give you/us, but again;they too are lost. Where is that answer? What is true/false? You/we have your/our conversations with them and you know deep inside what felt true and then one day--- gone--- whether in death or by their own means or someone else's --- move away and so forth... losing contact with that special friend/person and hearing things afterward that you/one can hardly believe. But, what is true or a lie? If in death that person can never answer  and it's just as hard trying to find those that are lost; either by their hands or another's and seek those "unanswered questions".  Some love to play games with others and some are just caught up in the moment with no ill will at all..  

Sometimes, is it best to just let it go or to seek out that truth/lie? Do you believe your heart or your head? Everyone deserves their "answers" but if that other is not there and those that might know will not come forth.... all you/we have are the memories of conversations that were true to you/us and sometimes that is all that matters (to get us through the day); until one day those "unanswered questions" will simply be a faded memory.  

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Bobbie's Takes: Happy Halloween

Bobbie's Takes: Happy Halloween: Things that go bump in the night Do you know what goes bump in the night? Have you ever heard a strange whistle while you were outsi...

Those noises we hear......real or not?---- Have a Happy Halloween

Things that go bump in the night

Do you know what goes bump in the night?

Have you ever heard a strange whistle while you were outside wandering around in the woods? Or a constant whistle while you are alone in the house?  And mind you, it's an intelligent whistle; when you are brave enough to whistle back; it stops.
What about while driving in the dead of night down the Natchez Trace and you hear a cackle, long and loud.
What about shadows of strange figures? These figures that only have heads that pop up and you can't make out the face but you are sure to know that from the outline, you are glad you can't... What about a figure with glowing eyes, are you dreaming?
What about strange noises in your house? Blinds moving, shadows moving underneath the door? What about missing silverware in your house or things moving from one place to the next? Chairs rocking on their own?
Could all this be imagination? Our minds are powerful and when fear kicks in; could it be the mind is in overdrive making us think these things are there? Or could it be spirits, angels, demons or sinister little creatures as the DJinn or Gnomes running a muck creating havoc... ??
When you are alone again and hear or see these little things, stop and ask yourself if this is normal or is there really things that go bump in the night....

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